Do women stick with ‘bad’ relationships?


So it would seem that women do stick it out..even when the abuse is incessant, the compatibility negligible. Why? The first reason offered is always financial, and the second emotional dependence. .. the financial one is not true all the time..often enough not true that it absolutely cannot be the rule. Really. Women from across class structures and across employment and education and family backgrounds do stick it out…stick with…or whatever you want to call it, but what they don’t do is stick it to the man!

In an interesting paper on women’s identities, women are supposed to choose their own position in reference to relationships and institutions. Be it a man or their place of work… very often, they presume an identity defined by a relationship, not necessarily with a man…it could be any, as the boss, as the mom, as the daughter…as the wife, as the sister… or they remember what it was like for their mom and they believe, they can be better at tolerating crap or better at beating it..but they don’t go out to seek those skills, to make the relationship work for them…

Read this http://www.the-indian-subcontinent.org/content/couple-counseling-option-marriage-health

Women make themselves fit into the relationship until eventually, the relationship is all there is…in some instances, there are also the values of religion and womanhood that stops them from sticking it to the man rather than sticking it out with him…But there again, the trick is to remember that Sita stayed Sita because there was a Ram! Ravan does not deserve Sita and must not have her! not for one janam and definitely not for 7 more….

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2 Responses to Do women stick with ‘bad’ relationships?

  1. Anonymous woman says:

    “Female Brain” is wired for preservation of the species, not selfpreservation. In the long run, female of the species do what they think is best for the children. Relationships do not matter, if the status quo provided stability.

  2. sunaina asthana says:

    Somewhere women are brainwashed into believing that its their duty to make a relationship work. That woman’s success lies in making a relationship work irrespective of the fact whether it unequal or abusive. Therefore, most women shy from questioning their status in abusive or intolerable relationships too, whether as in marriage, job, etc….

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