The liability of being Arushi – Child Abuse or Honor Killing or…girlhood in Indian Subcontinent

So apparently case closed, in the double murder of Arushi and the home help Hemraj! CBI, the top most institution for examining foul play….expressed its inabilities and limitations in continuing its efforts a bare 2 years later…

Does the investigation show any conversation with her friends and classmates…how many of her classmates were spoken with by the CBI investigators…Abused and victimized children talk to their friends and teachers. They share their fears and odd people or odd incidences? Not all people have friends like Ruchika to fight her case year after year but even small children keep confidences…year after year. The nature of the crime must have given them questions, does it seem premeditated? Do they know why only she and the servant were killed and not her parents? Did they examine the trajectory of her life? Were there any noticeable changes? Abused children show low self esteem, higher anxiety, and sometimes aggression…did any teacher think so? If not, how about looking through the videos and pictures… to see who are part of her circle of  family and neighborhood… Like a bull loose in a china shop, the  media chewed and spat out…   so many questions and so many to ask them from but apparently case closed…so we will never know why did Arushi need to be locked in her room each night…a 14 year old should be able to lock the door from inside hai na? was it to allow entry or stop entry!

The association of liability with girls is so ingrained in our psyche that a supreme court judge, gracing the highest seat of power also can not think beyond a ‘liability’ about her daughters. According to accessible reports filed under information about public office bearers, arranging marriages for her girls will be a far bigger ordeal that will surmount the position of power and privilege that herself has.  So when the challenged children from the Lucknow school for the “deaf and dumb” have the courage to report sexual and physical abuse and torment, guess who leaves the premises….not the manager of the school, not the negligent welfare board officers, not the culprits, instead the victimized children become again their parents “liabilities”…back home, away from learning, away from opportunity…while the manger continues, her horrendous offspring might continue to prowl the corridors for more vulnerable children under the supervision of Madame’ manager…

if all is to be believed, then the parents wanted rape not to be notified for Arushi…honor or abuse, Girls continue to be a devi …put her on a pedestal and treat her like an idol or tarnish her image and treat her like trash…Arushis of our world will remain prey unless there are concerned and proactive individuals who are part of their lives, especially women….

The Supreme Court Judge is probably being practical, using her girls to explain away her wealth as a means of marrying off children and expense all classes understand, after all marriage arrangements continue to be a statement of class and affection so when she organizes a wedding tamasha to ensure that her “liabilities” at least start off happy. What the hon’ble justice did not know is that equitable property rights for girls in the ancestral property are more reliable than marriage in today’s world…

who knows what tv soap the would be grooms would watch and get inspired to pull a saas bahu style “unhappiness forever”! after all aren’t they more influential than the rights “The Constitution of India guarantees to all Indian women equality (Article 14), no
discrimination by the State (Article 15(1)), equality of opportunity (Article 16), equal pay
for equal work (Article 39(d)). In addition, it allows special provisions to be made by the
State in favour of women and children (Article 15(3)), renounces practices derogatory to
the dignity of women (Article 51(A) (e)), and also allows for provisions to be made by
the State for securing just and humane conditions of work and for maternity relief.
(Article 42).”


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