So a dejected girlfriend in a live in relationship, apparently burned the ex-boyfriend and the fiance’ down while they were sleeping. The woman is hospitalized wit 90% burns, while the man has 10%…the twisted story has a man who was committed to the live-in but not marriage and when he got hooked up for a live in with legal sanction a.k.a marriage..it was to another woman. Both women were invested enough to be in the same flat, in the middle of the night fighting over the man and his affections? in the middle of the night, apparently one was in the man’s bed and the other outside …again apparently making peace with her situation…but it did not work and soon, the love of her life and his future wife were aflame.
Tragic and ludicrous at the same time, is the juxtaposition of the urbanity of our evolving values that allow us to commit our heart and body without any concern for the future of this investment….poised against the primeval emotions which believe and belong in their own reality, making it seem just fine to pull a stalking, homicidal fiend act on those we profess to love. …
Sociologically, the dimensions are no less worse. There is limited recourse across the continents …be it Azea or Umrika, to explain away our feelings in any talk show or inspired sitcoms. The absence of guidance and breaking down of family roles means maybe father and mother are no longer finding girls a “suitable boy” while girls are not able to stick to the “milk a cow for free” thinking because they are looking for a sexual identity apparently as all the new age polls will have us believe…The vacuum facing us in upheaval of gender norms is that of human etiquette that is required to be global enough to not become the bane of feminist and yet real enough to become a new local norm…”uffff…Banji ..wat to do…garls and boyz are so modern now and v have to adjust”…”Right Behenji?
what we don’t have is an explanation for these trusting mothers and fathers to explain that modernity might not imply higher self-esteem, that getting into relationships on your steam also means you are the only one maintaining it, and just like the family level communication was key to arranged marriages, inter-personal communication needs to be more explicit, direct, and conscious of threats and risks to the survival of relationships….particularly intimate ones!