Meaning of Rape Culture India- Delhi “pretty ladies with makeup” Profiling “Sexist” “Rapist” “Misogynist” “Woman haters” “Chauvnist”


So I was talking to a very senior police officer the other day, a well balanced, well read man married to another woman police office….(I don’t know if these make him an exception). However, he basically profiled the “rape culture” of Delhi and surrounding areas in very succinct words -” drugs and alcohol keep most of the male population in Delhi – 15 years and up from across classes in a stupor of depraved cravings;  the public mobility of women and the absence of any deterrence perceived or real support keeps women within easy access of these drugged men; and the culture of party (MIND YOU not the discotheque or college party of equals) of the big farm house led by big politicians and “rich” classes, and underworld that thrives on the trade of drugs and increasingly people – women and children-….more than gold and arms; and finally the continuing understanding of most men that women are sheila ki jawani waiting for them!

Much to the chagrin of our dearly evolved President, his retrograde son is able to share his sexist, misogynist, woman hating, chauvinism on camera. Voicing his worry that “painted and dented pretty women” are not in college and not likely to be protestors…in fact he is overwhelmed because for him a woman is the one who sleeps with him, feeds him, and allows him to misuse her in numerous ways with scant complaints. the women on the street are not ones he knows: “you know why sir jee? “who are these ladiez sir jee? protesting, nara wara ..and all? ”

Because he did not help to make these women, they constructed themselves,  from the hard work and sweat of their middle class upbringing, from the dredges of their lower class resources, and some help from far away ………resources that were creating education and work opportunities even within corporate funding and its limitations….these men were caught in the larger loot that fell their way,  Back here though, these men who were “powerfully” signing away treaties and agreements…were counting only  how much money would fall in their lap…and yes, yes women get to work hard and bring money...”heheheh why not sir jee? ladki logs working, sir jee, gud na…we can ask matrimonial column to say, “want gori girl, working preferred”

so the rape culture -( in and out of marriage )continued especially in the political and rich babusahab class evident from the burning daughter in laws and killing daughters (though they are all claiming on national television their daughters) continued in their own homes, along with abducting women, killing boyfriends of their daughters,  burning ex-mistress’s in tandoors and organizing parties with special requests for college girls as appetizers…..this is their culture…’painted’ and ‘unpainted’ women were fair game! they will not be easily put off ! and till date they do not have any reason to not share the workings of their brains: since the brains are obviously not being applied to governance, the ‘brains’can be applied to sex and sexuality and claiming a right to it by all these men! to have women, to own women, to abuse and commit violence against women!

This is not patriarchy – this is hatred for women!

So the evolved Bengali political family, which the President of India belongs to also raises a son, who hates women, ” hain what babu moshai” “বমেন ব্লাডি বিউটি মেকিং কান্ট্রি মেস্স্য় ” and a woman who says” kya kehta hai – ব্রথের , ই আম অলস ওম্যান “ …unfortunately women from higher class feel empowered by the same family that suffocates the life out of women from all other families…and women from middle to lower class are left to listen to drivel that is basically “a” women at best and venomously “anti- woman” at worst.

so when we see the news on tv these last few days, we, men and women, who put in our blood and sweat trying to treat our children equal, give our girls a sense of identity and self, preparing themboth to struggle and survive will see them young  and helpless and yet be proud of our brave children  -women and girls, who are on the streets fighting, (unlike us) and the boys standing with friends and colleagues and classmates as equals and as supports ….but this is the urban minority…

A prominent chunk of India is seeing through the haze of alcohol, and drugs, and power, “pretty women” who they can get to their farm party, request as a special favor, and then say on public forums says” why u are naked? i am asking for your good”  because youknow all the women who get raped arewearing skirts and make up apparently….and as a way of  expressing real support ” sir jee , marry the girls na, then it is ok” …urban and rural rich ones…of India…

the poor rural are probably tied up somewhere along with their children serving these people, or being trafficked to China and Mexico even as we speak and think…and sort of believe we are in a free nation!

the law of violence against women needs an incorporation of communication and speech that makes any action or word “person who (expresses in any form) hate, dislike, mistrust, or mistreatment of  women” will be fined a months salary if he has a job, if not do community service by masquerading as a woman in short clothes in a “party” of someone rich and powerful!  and come and share his experiences opposite someone like the Presidents’ son and Chauthala, and maybe Nirupam something? …

and if you need input on how to operationalize it …there are lots of details  from 16th century

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