So in yet another horrific instance of love affairs or imaginary love affairs, a boy a student in JNU has attempted the murder of another girl student. and committed suicide post fact.
Multiple explanations could be found for this instance
The first one has to be the personality disorder: Meaning an inability of the young man in question to face rejection as clear from his note.
Or it could be norm based understanding of what his and her behaviors should be in ..ultimately if you are in love it must be marriage or a life long commitment or …some such ideal.
Or the man could be a representative of a society still struggling with the modern womanhood of college girls, men and boys being the primary flag bearers of women’s traditional identity, any counter performance of gender is ultimately considered a sin! hence, in every such instance, on the street, in the home, in college campuses, in public arenas, any counter traditional norm and its occurrence is the violent reactions of the man in or men n question.
For a long time now, We have advocated for a relationship counseling curriculum for a young and struggling youth. They are exposed to the ideal western norms in varying degrees, some of the youth are influenced, some are not, so we have an India confused about where and what and who is supposed to behave how?
our largely idiotic cinema projects identities and structures that are counterintuitive to existing practices. Television Channels like star Plus are idealizing norms that their writer of non-Indian upbringing thinks are very influential. They are not influencing behavior bur looks like are effecting expectations. Unfortunately, most of India does not live in Bombay or Bangalore, they live in small towns or small town mindsets, and the only thing they seem to be changing is their commitment to commitment of social good.
JNU, a college of learning and emancipation was not able to expect or institutionalize a gender neutral behavior in its language undergraduates….because it did not think it needed to. While Universities in Kerala and UP are insisting girls wear “Indian” clothes. It shows a lack of thoughtful application of needs of youth, their thinking, their changing priorities, their evolving identity.
Wake up time! mind-set is not going to change in a vacuum, it needs guidance and leaders, we don’t have a mahatma Gandhi unfortunately, but we could at least have meaningful conversations, and we don’t mean Barkha Dutt crazily screaming on the big question, clueless and clever…..
we mean people who know what they are doing!